filigree_shadow

Cassis is black currant.

Ooo, I like currant. Maybe this one will be better than I thought! Thanks!

It seems like a few people who don't have much discretionary income (or claim not to, but find the funds for concerts, clothes, etc.) would rather focus the blame on someone else.

That's what I was thinking as well. I thought SevenSins raised an excellent point in the thread about the price increases that was started this morning -- if a $2.50 increase is going to break your bank, then perfume really shouldn't be at the top of your shopping list to begin with. Perfume is a luxury item even if it is inexpensive (and $15 for a whole bottle is inexpensive perfume by pretty much anyone's standards, I think).

I think people will find that they can still afford the BPAL oils they want, but it might mean that they need to be more careful about going crazy on update days. Maybe they'll get 2 bottles instead of 3. Or maybe they'll have to start getting creative with their swaps. But I don't think that's much to complain about.

I just don't understand what's wrong with some people, and I'm staying away from that thread because I'd probably want to post some cranky old lady rant about all the ungreatful bitching going on about price increases!

I tried to do just that, but it came out terrible. I was trying to be nice instead of saying what I really felt, and the end result was that what I posted didn't read very well -- it didn't make sense. Talk about cranky old lady rant -- mine is complete with the crazy nonsense. I may as well have been swinging a cane and adjusting my plastic rainhat when I wrote it.

Hey, by the way, valentina and blackcloud, I hope you guys are both having great birthdays!!! My baby sister's birthday is today too (she's 28) -- I've been celebrating on Aug. 3 since I was 7 years old and my sister was born.

But showing up in a celebration thread in a fan forum to complain, that's just pissing on someone else's good time for no reason. It's sour grapes, pure and simple.

Yeah, that was the exact thing that bugged me. I have seen repeatedly that every time Beth does something, someone's gotta complain about it (although usually it's over on LJ). But coming into the big ol' lovefest update thread where people were posting that they were running around in circles out of joy over the update, and basically just being a wet blanket and bringing the whole party down with insults and petty whining... that's what really irritated me.

Snarky and blackcloud, I think I'm going to have to try what you guys do and look the other way when I see teh beeeg drama approaching. It never fails that I get all worked up about it, and that doesn't help anyone.

I really could have used that phrase about 4 months ago, before I quit my job.

Thanks, miss apple & valentina.

I think that wanting to bury precious things with a beloved person is a very, very old instinct. And I think your idea about the dog fur was very thoughtful, valentina. I wish someone would think to do that for me some day... I love my dogs and I am never without their fur on my clothes, so to me it seems very appropriate.

I think my husband wanted me to keep the card mainly as a memento of the last Father's Day before my dad was buried... I actually got it out of the picture frame yesterday and looked at it again. I was surprised to find out that the image I had in my head of what the front of the card looked like was completely wrong, and I had forgotten that I put a funeral card in there too. So I'm glad I kept it. I can't visit my dad any more, but I spent some time with memories. Those cards helped.

Eat Drink Man Woman definitely has my vote! I love that movie.

I am usually conflict-averse, but I would have raised hell at that shop! Even though it didn't end up costing you anything, it did cause you a lot of headaches and wasted time trying to figure out the whole problem. Plus it was a crime. And if it was that shopgirl who stole your info, she deserved to be fired -- stores should be able to trust their employees with their customers' personal information.

Anyway, I'm really sorry to hear that this happened to you... I am careful with my credit info but I still live in fear that something like this will happen to me too.

I am really going to try to write reviews for everything in my blog too. If you see me slacking, give me a poke!

*attempts to bribe with cookies to peek at the design*

Whoa. This is new news to me.

Beth's post in alchemylab today further explains why she needs to close it down. Apparently the potential legal problems that could be associated with it (which the community of course knew nothing about until now, because Beth doesn't go around complaining about things like that) are becoming... well, problematic. Jump over there and see what Beth says, though, because I don't want to be putting words in her mouth.

I DO know it was a huge amount of stress for Beth, and so I'm glad to see it go.

Even if only for that reason, I'm glad to see it go as well. I prefer bpalanonymous for LJ community conversations (the "no drama" rule appeals to me greatly) anyway.

btw... very cool new icon!!

I agree! I was really irked when I sold a fairly rare LE imp under the forum's price cap (trying to keep things affordable for everyone) and then saw it on the buyer's sale list on LJ the very next week for... of course... a higher price than she paid me. Chalk that person off the list of people I'll buy from in the future.

But fortunately as far as I know nobody else has tried to make a profit off something that came from me. Most BPAL people are pretty cool.

I like the words rabble-rouser and lollygag when spoken. Wonder what that says about me.

But I don't like dwarf. It's fine in print, but I can't say that combination of letters. It comes out like I'm either faking an English accent ("dwouf") or like I'm an imbecile ("drarf"). And I have to say the word all the damn time due to my immense love for the Red Dwarf series. Blast!

I just won one of Puddin's eBay auctions today!

Anyway, thank you for writing such a thoughtful comment -- I appreciate it.

I have spent lots of money on stuff that no one can buy from the Lab anymore, but I'm sure I've spent just as much directly at the Lab's website. And I'm pretty much caught up now with almost everything the Lab's ever made, so from here on my money will be going straight to the Lab for all the new updates (and those bottles of GCs I haven't gotten around to ordering yet). Like you said, problem solved!

I'm not motivated by wanting what I can't have, I honestly just want to try everything. Not hoard it, just try it. When I first found out about BPAL I was blown away by the sheer magnitude of the catalog and had no idea what to try, and I certainly didn't think there was any way I'd ever try them all. But the first few imps I received were unlike any perfume I have ever smelled. I was so hooked I can't even describe it. Every imp I got was like magic, and they still are. I can't tell you how many hours I've spent sitting on this couch opening imps with a dumb grin on my face and thinking about what I'll say in my review. And I get compliments like twice a week. Seriously. No one ever commented on my perfume in my life until I started wearing BPAL oils -- now it happens all the time.

I haven't been so excited about anything in a long, long time. Usually it's over music or books, and when I get that way I buy everything that band/author ever produced -- it's same thing with BPAL. But the difference (and the best part) is that there is this forum filled with people jumping up and down when they get their BPAL packages and gushing about the scents just like I do. I've never had this with music or books I love. I like being part of it. OK, I love being part of it. When I read the disparaging comments on that Wank thread about Shelldoo's collection (which I personally think is really cool) and about people who spend "insane" amounts of money on "just perfume oil," it made me feel like maybe I'm not as much a part of it as I'd hoped.

I guess maybe that was the only snarky comment that I thought could be applied to me, which is why that's the one that made me feel guilty.

And I suppose I could be found guilty of being a suckup to Beth, but I simply admire her great creativity. There is no reason to not praise someone who makes unique products that I enjoy. [...]

Heehee, when I saw that one about people sucking up, I thought "hey, I bet they're talking about me." Not that I give a rat's ass. I know I'm not sucking up, sucking up is when you're insincere and being sycophantic to get something out of it for yourself. I'd still go on and on about how Beth is a genius even if she posted a "filigree_shadow is an asshole and no one should ever swap with her again!" comment in 8 different BPAL communities and refused to sell me any more oils through the Lab.

Macha, just remind yourself -- some BPALers really are 18 years old. I'm guessing the worst of the nastiness came from kids whose worldview is truly high school. Or college (which in my experience wasn't much better). I have felt like I don't have much in common with "kids these days" since I turned 30, and the wank thread is just another example of that.

Also this is a total aside, but I love your art.

And you're an artist with words, too. I love reading your posts.

 

OK. I looked. I believe in venting, but great googly moogly! Plus, I'm not much for anonymity whilst trashing others by name either. Seems like a stinky sucker punch.

You're exactly right -- it is a stinky sucker punch.

Oh, THAT thread ... Who thought anonymous was a good idea anyway? Yikes!

I thought the anonymous posting when alchemylab had the "new rules" discussion one or two weeks ago was a good idea. And I was happy to see that people didn't abuse it to be rude -- they just used it to post an opinion that might be seen as unpopular and didn't want to suffer backlash. I think that's understandable.

But in this wank thread... not quite so mature use of anon there. Eh, it was bound to happen sooner or later, I guess. I feel bad for people whose feelings got hurt, but I also feel bad for the people who posted that junk. Just my personal opinion, but when you say stuff like that when you're all caught up in the drama of the moment, you'll probably feel crappy about it for years to come.

That was my experience -- from one time I did that when I was in high school -- and regret about what I said still crosses my mind 20 years later. Hopefully these people will learn that, too.

lj bpal wank thread? What is this all about? Don't get me wrong, I am not all about spreading the hate...but you know...train wrecks...rubbernecking and all

It's here. Read at your own risk.

http://bpal-whore.livejournal.com/675.html

(I figure people will hunt down the link anyway if they want to read it... so I don't feel bad about posting it.)